You know what I’m talking about. You see an email or text that makes you question if something is wrong. Or, get a voicemail that asks you to call, without any explanation. Or, notice the side-eye from someone while you’re speaking or holding a meeting. We’ve all experienced these little moments of panic. These tiny shocks to the nervous system come out of the blue, sometimes several times a day. What to do, what to do?

First, understand that these occur because our survival brain is always scanning the environment for threats. While none of these may represent a threat, the survival brain doesn’t know that. Its job is to alert you to the possibility. So, we get that surge of adrenaline, that jolt to the heart, that discomfort in the gut. 

Most of us have learned to disregard these sensations, even dismiss them, because they just seem insignificant. We ignore them or stuff them. And, if we get a little upset, we judge ourselves as “being silly” or “too sensitive.” We become numb to them. This is a very human mistake. 

Instead of shutting this warning down, take a moment to acknowledge it. A part of your psyche is trying to keep you safe. Pause, take a few calming breaths, and reassure that part of you. Put your hand on your heart. Talk to yourself like you would a scared child — it’s okay, I hear you, I’ve got you.

By doing this small thing, you ignite your calm, parasympathetic nervous system. This is a good thing. You lessen the tension and resulting challenges and create greater focus and peace. 

Set your intention to become aware of these little moments of “yikes!” It also helps to establish a regular practice, like meditation, to become more attuned to your physical, mental, and emotional experiences. 

When one occurs, acknowledge the feelings that come up and do something that calms you, like putting your hands on your heart. Then address the specific situation. 

It’s not much to ask, is it? Fifteen seconds to soothe your heart, mind, and body. Try it. See if it works for you. And, if I can support you, I’d love to. 

This content was inspired by Paulien Elzinga, MSc, www.liefcoaching.nl